My Dating Relationship Advice

If you are unhappy in your marriage search for ways to make things better. I know, that may sound easier said than done, but I never said it would be easy. The bottom line if you aren’t happy you need to try to make changes or be willing to stay unhappy… it is your choice.

If you have problems in your marriage search the internet, the bookshelves and maybe even the yellow pages for a counselor or therapist that can help you and your spouse figure it all out.

There is a lot of help available if you really want it. And that is very often the problem. It is often one half of the couple who is willing to invest time and effort to attempt to fix the issues in your marriage.

But, what are you supposed to do if your partner does not want to work on the marriage too? How can a counselor help you if you are all on your own?

Well, a counselor may be able to help you make some changes yourself. It may or may not allow you to fix your marriage but at least you are doing something to improve your happiness.

You can’t force your spouse to work on the marriage, face their shortcomings and make changes or be willing to put in time and effort. But, you can choose to do those things yourself and see where it leads.

It is possible that if you start making some changes yourself your spouse will get the hint and jump on the bandwagon. If that happens, good for you! But, it is also very likely that your spouse is selfish, lazy, inconsiderate and really just doesn’t give a darn about you or the marriage and will fight you every step of the way.

Either way, at least you can have the peace of mind knowing that you drew the line in the sand and that instead of allowing yourself to be a miserable door mat you are trying to make things better.

Of course a counselor can help you find the courage and strength as well as specific actions to do this.

At some point, you may have to face the fact that your marriage is broken and that without the assistance of your spouse there is no way to fix it.

If you get to that point you may have to be willing to end the marriage and walk away. That will take a lot of courage but it is better than living life with someone who really is too self absorbed to help work on what should be the most important relationship of their life.

Ending your relationship won’t be easy, but in the long run in may be the best shot you have of really finding happiness. It might also be the best thing for your children, if you have any.

Much is made of the harm to children who come from a broken home, but more should be made of the harm that is done to the children by growing up in a battle zone between the two people they love the most.

If you want to fix your marriage search for the best solution for you and your situation.